Ask any preschooler and you’d be told that “daddies go out to work while mummies stay at home to take care of the family “.
This traditional model of of family roles has been with us since forever and has continued to be perpetrated even though the reality is that a lot of women contribute their quota to society by going out to work.
As women, we are natural nuturers whether we choose to ‘stay-at-home-and-take-care-of-the-family’ of climbing the proverbial ‘corporate-ladder’, it is still expected that we’d be ones responsible for the care of our children, husbands and our homes.
When things go wrong at the homefront, the competence of the woman is usually questioned. Hardly would a father be called if a child turns up in school without his lunch but the mother is expected to dash out of a business meeting to supply the lunch as proof of her love and devotion to her children.
Managing a career and family is a tough struggle that has left many women feeling guilty and doubtful of their life choices.
This blog post is about restoring your confidence as a working mum and giving you the encouragement you need to shake off the ‘mummy guilt’.
If you’ve ever found yourself struggling to balance your personal and career lives, here are a few things you need to know.
Even stay-at-home-mums don’t always have it altogether.
Yep, I wrote that!
I’ve been at both sides of the fence and I can tell you that being a stay-at-mummy doesn’t always mean you’d be available for every Parent-Teacher Conference or that your home would always be spick & span.
Sometimes life gets in the way of our best intentions and it’s important we learn to roll with it.
Don’t beat yourself up when your plans fall short, just do as much damage control as you can and move on.
Psst, I’ve sometimes sent my children off to school with food bought from fastfood restaurants!
You’re setting an excellent example for your children.
We all want to raise successful children and success involves setting goals, achieving them & being recognised for those achievements.
Being a working mum offers your children an opportunity of witnessing how success is achieved through hardwork and commitment to service.
Hopefully, those are values that would inspire them in life.
You are making a difference.
Being a woman in the work place means you bring in your own unique flare to the work environment.
Do I really need to spell out the fundamental differences between men and women!?
I think not.
But suffice to say that as a woman, your perspective to issues would definitely be very different and far more refreshing than your male colleagues. This brings balance to the work place.
As a member of the human race, you have a right to pursue your dreams and follow your passions…
…..even if those dreams and passions are endeavours outside of your home.
Pursuing your passions gives you a sense of personal fulfilment. It energizes you and raises your self esteem.
Let’s face it, it’s nice to have adult conversations and wear heels.
It can be exhilarating to be part of a team of achievers. Not to be able to predict what’s going to happen next, making decisions on the fly and having an impact on a grander scale than your immediate family.
Every girl likes to dress up and going out to work is a perfectly good reason to dress up everday – (not that staying at home is an excuse to be shabby).
Drop your comments below and let’s hear how you cope with being a mum and having a career.
I can’t wait to hear from you 😉