September is here!
…and the lazy days of summer is gradually winding down.
It’s a new month and here at ‘Aunty Mo’s Place’, we would be starting off each new month with a close look at a particular value and consider how we can incorporate that value into our parenting.
What are values?
Values are those ideals which influence our judgement about what’s important in life.
They are principles or standards that a person considers important.
Values determine how a person will stand at a point of decision making as well as shape a person’s reputation.
We all subscribe to different values depending on the way we perceive life.
Someone may place a very high premium on honesty and integrity while another may value friendship and loyalty. All are admirable qualities which ultimately informs how each person would respond to situations.
Our value for the month of September is ‘Responsibility‘.
A few years ago, whilst assisting my son with his science homework, I was reminded of ‘MR NIGER D.’ – This is a mnemonic used to recall the characteristics of living things.
Each letter of the mnemonic represents a different characteristic.
The ‘I’ in ‘Mr Niger D.’ stands for ‘irritability’, which is the ability of living things to respond to changes in the environment by effecting changes in their physiology.
In autumn, trees shed their leaves in preparation for darker winter months when there’d limited supply of sunshine. They do this to conserve energy since their ability to manufacture food through photosynthesis would be limited. This is an example of how irritability helps a plant to preserve its life.
Through irritability, living things demonstrate high sensitivity to changes in their environment.
Irritability is essentially a living thing’s ‘response-ability’.
This ‘response-ability’ helps an organism to perpetuate its existence.
Irritability allows a living thing to assume full responsibility for its own wellbeing.
Every living thing, including your child, is gifted with this ‘response-ability’.
We all have the capacity to act in ways that is in our personal interest as well as the interest of our communities and we demonstrate this capacity in various degrees.
“Look at the word ‘Responsibility’ – ‘Response-Ability’ –
The ability to choose your response. Highly proactive people recognise that responsibility.
They do not blame circumstances or conditioning for their behaviour. Their behaviour is a product of their own conscious choice based on values rather than a product of their condition based on feelings”.
– Stephen R. Covey.
Qualities of a responsible child